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Linda Bartosik...
First steps of a beginning writer/artist/illustrator. Follow me on my journey. Read More...

My newest book now available on Amazon!

My newest book now available on Amazon!

Many treasures lie under the sea, but will Alistar find the one that will make ‘The Perfect Birthday Present’ for his mom? Join this adventurous little sea star and his best buddy Barnaby (a blob fish) as they travel through the beautiful deep blue sea, meeting many other creatures of the deep. When the two friends finally stumble upon the perfect present, Alistar needs to make a difficult decision, which only he can make. When he does, the little sea star learns that there are times when it is not the present that is important, but the thought behind it.

My First Cover! Now available on Amazon – Kindle & Hardcover

My First Cover! Now available on Amazon – Kindle & Hardcover

For Linda Crowley, the first day of the year had always been set aside to work on new, positive beginnings and 1970 was no different. Her husband and children were by all accounts healthy and no one even considered the terrible thought that tragedy would strike before the day was over, and life as she had known it was gone.

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My first illustrating project available on Amazon

My first illustrating project available on Amazon

Haley doesn't have a normal pet she has a goat, Ralph. He thinks he's having fun but he's causing untold trouble for Haley. Trouble seems to follow Ralph everywhere he goes only he doesn't know it. Haley's father says Ralph has to be sold!

Going In

This past week I wrote a post about Dr.Phil's new book, "Life Code". I was only half way through the book so I only read the parts that involved giving us the "playbook" of the B.A.I.T.E.R.S. (those out there to harm us) Today I reached the second half of the book where he is giving us our own "playbook" for our own "life code" so we won't be blindsided by these people ever again.

At first, after reading the playbook that they use, I thought that would be enough to warn us and teach us how to spot those red flags of people we shouldn't let hang around in our lives. After all, isn't knowing how, when, and where they operate just the perfect way to protect ourselves? Obviously not, because I have a whole other half of the book to read.

I'm only part way through this second half, but right in the beginning Dr. Phil laid out the most ingenuous strategy for protecting oneself out there in the world today. He tells us there's no better way to do this than to spend some serious time turning inward and studying ourselves. He says the better we know ourselves, the less likely of us getting blindsided out there. Hmmm…… I do think he has a point.

I have spent the last two years banging around inside myself and finding both – things I liked about myself and things I didn't like, as well as things I was good at and things I super sucked at. Paying attention to one's weaknesses and strengths raises our awareness when we venture out there and get involved in relationships. For instance, in my case, I always knew I was a strong person, but I never knew I internalized things to keep up that vestige of strength until those things jumped up out of the darkness and turned me into an emotional basket case. Only when, as Taylor Swift says, "I found myself lying on the cold, hard ground", literally, did I sit up, all covered in emotional garbage, and wonder what the hell just happened.

Had I known then what I know now about attending to fear and loss and not internalizing it, I wouldn't have had to spend three months in chair with depression and fatigue and the twenty plus pounds I still have to lose from that delightful experience. Now, when loss threatens my world, I'll meet it head on instead of stuffing it and having it blow up my life six months later.

The exercise Dr. Phil uses in the second half of the book work in much the same way. By doing a little self-discovery we can be better prepared when someone tries to come at us, using our weaknesses as a surprise to take us down. If we know our weaknesses, we'll spot these people in a heartbeat. If we don't – guess what? Surprise – again – blindsided. Makes a lot of sense and after the past two years getting up off "the cold, hard ground" and scraping off layers of emotional muck, I can say, yes, this is a good strategy.

And so, as another day goes by, I still have to finish the book, and….I have written.

Going In

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